People start hating their jobs at 35
I was an early bird. I realized I hated my first job out of law school within a year of being there, and I was only 27. Now in my 30s, I enjoy many things about my work, but a couple years ago I realized I needed something else. A little side piece that would allow me to do the things I love to do: help people, socialize, and make money!
According to a recent survey of more than 2,000 U.K. employees by human resource firm Robert Half, 1 in 6 British workers over age 35 said they were unhappy—more than double the number for those under 35. I imagine the numbers are very similar in the U.S., if not more dramatic.
In my experience there are a few reasons why 35 is the magic number:
You realize that THIS might be your life forever. This is it. You've climbed whatever ladder you chose, and are definitely making more money, but you also have the stress of added responsibilities and managing others. And, somehow life has gotten more expensive! Yes, I do believe the old adage--the more you make, the more you spend.
You probably have a family now, and taking care of children adds a lovely layer of joy, but also a thick layer of stress, especially if your job does not allow you much flexibility.
Your expectations are higher. We are no longer happy with just having "a job." Trust me I graduated law school in 2010, the driest year in the legal market. I was grateful to have a job. In our 30s, however, we not only want a job, we want to make more, and preferably in an enjoyable atmosphere. Please and thanks, universe!
The clock is ticking. My 20s were characterized by a constant hustle. Working a bunch, so that I could travel as much as possible, and payoff my credit cards post-travel! I'd think "oh, this will all sort itself out later, when I start making more." In my 30s, I've become acutely aware of the rat race. The numbers aren't adding up, and time is flying by! So we are forced to make a change.
I think we have an obligation to be true to ourselves and follow our curiosity. That doesn't mean quitting your job and pursuing that thing you've always wondered about (I mean you could!), it means giving the things you love about life a more formal rank or position. Honoring them. Whether its your drawing, writing, speaking, coaching, dancing, yoga class, web design, etc.