Validate Your Decisions to Build Self-Trust
Today I want to talk about how validating your past decisions can help you build self-trust.
Last week I caught up with two clients who have made huge decisions in their lives recently. Hard decisions, that required them to weigh so many different factors, and forced them to meet & know themselves more clearly in the decision-making.
What I mean by meet themselves is they had to:
be honest with themselves about what they really want their daily lives to look like,
be honest with themselves about what they want their career and family legacies to be,
disentangle and release themselves from others expectations (both family and institutions) re: their lives and legacies,
leap into the abyss.
Believe me the decisions they made were not easy. They were existential ravines.
And the result of each decision wasn’t cute either. Having coached them through the aftermath, I know it was, at times, excruciating. I know there were moments where they regreted their decision or doubted whether it was the right move.
Yet last week they both thanked me for helping them learn how to be radically honest with themselves, courageous in the face of scary decisions, and then relentless in validating their decisions.
This is where the magic occurs, y’all…when you make a decision, that is yours alone, based on your values, your intuition, your gut feelings, and then everything goes seemingly to shit.
In that moment, you get to decide whether you’ll allow yourself to doubt and regret it forever, or whether you will have your own back no matter the consequence.
When you stop to validate the decision that PAST YOU made, based on the info she had at the time, you grow your self-trust, you integrate parts of you, and you feel safe within your own mind.
The spoils of my clients’ personal wars are so worth it.
They are shiny, new, and far beyond what they originally imagined was available. They look like love, life-changing career opportunities, so much money and abundance.
They chose their flavor of discomfort, and on the other end they have both the actual material gains and the satisfaction of having deepened their self-trust.
As a coach, there’s no greater feeling. I’m so proud of them.
Because here’s the thing, as your coach I can’t force you to stay true to your desires, I can only help you identify what those might be.
I can’t take the leap into the abyss FOR you, I can only help you fortify yourself emotionally so you’re ready to deal with shit no matter how the leap goes.
I can’t force you to validate your decisions and have your own back even when things don’t go as planned. Only you can create that inner safety for yourself.
So, when my clients do this for themselves, I am often moved to tears because I know they will be unstoppable. Their lives will never be the same.
They will live FULL out.
If you’re ready to do the same, let’s connect.